On Forgiveness

Aloha from Kaua’i!

T. Renee Richardson here, aka Aunty T. Renee. Can you believe we’re nearing the end of the year? How has yours been? Mine has been replete with continuous transitions. How empowering!

Last time I wrote, I mentioned that I’d share more information about how to get in touch with yourself. It’s time! The holiday season approaches and will upon soon. Family dynamics play an important role in getting in touch. During holiday season, our buttons, aka family dynamics issues, rise right on up to the surface. How do we smoothly handle the myriad interactions? Much has been written about boundary-setting and metaphysical/psychic self-defense. I’m taking a different approach here, beginning with a short anecdote:

Earlier this year, I stopped for lunch at a local restaurant and felt both heartened and inspired by a beautiful local woman in line. I’d complimented her shoes – told her they were “sassy,” and she smiled. She shared her perspective that at 70, she deserved it. Then she shared her disappointment that her Zumba class had been canceled that night. 70? Zumba? Scared of her! Clearly she had some valuable insight about life and I wanted to know what it was.

“What’s your secret?” I asked her. She thought for a minute and then said, “Be forgiving.” What could I do but nod. So I did.
Her response was so opposite of the attitude of retribution that I’ve seen all too often. I’ve frequently heard people, feeling that they’ve been wronged, invoke that karma is a bee-ach. These individuals fully expect and feel confident that the transgressor will “get theirs.” Only once in my life (I’m not 70 but do have some mileage on me) have I heard anyone say, “Well, I guess my chickens have come home to roost,” meaning wrongs done in the past have returned.

Karma = a bigger picture. True forgiveness, indeed, necessitates a bigger picture. Woe is me? Really? Take a bigger responsibility, a bigger inhalation, give a fuller exhalation. Then incorporate the insight. Set clearer, healthier boundaries. I will address that in more detail at a later time. Forgiveness means releasing the negative feelings inside oneself – it does NOT mean allowing any continuing abuse or transgression.

Holding resentment is like swallowing poison and expecting someone else to suffer. As our 70-year-old wise woman shared, “be forgiving.” That includes forgiving yourself for having created the situation. Empower yourself as soon as you gain insight. Free yourself. Continuing to allow mistreatment is like marinating in poison and expecting to feel better. Knock it off, and truly free yourself. It may take time, as any true and lasting learning is a process. Incremental adjustments are normal. “The truth will set you free – EVENTUALLY.” – Kimleigh Smith, from “T-O-T-A-L-L-Y!” So why not begin with our families, during the upcoming emotionally charged holiday season?

Wishing us all the best during the upcoming 2012 holiday season and beyond!

Miracles and blessings!

T. Renee Richardson, DD
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